What happens when we set very high expectations for a trip and it doesn't deliver? Seeking travel advisor and firsthand traveller voices
👉 Recommend this DiscussionRecommend this?
★
★
★
★
★
Reactions
What happens when we set very high expectations for a trip and it doesn't deliver?
What happens when we set very high expectations for a trip and it doesn't deliver?
was posted by Amritha Joseph
in
Discussion
,
Wellness
,
Writing
.
Featured on Jun 25, 2026 (26 days ago).
This post is not rated yet.
Sharing is caring
QR Code
Welcome to Travel Massive!
Discover new ideas in travel and join our global community of innovators and thought leaders. Learn more.
+ 555 others joined this month
Comments
I'm writing a mental health/wellness article for an online website about what happens when we set a very high bar for a trip in terms of expectations, and it doesn't deliver.
Think about milestone celebrations, bucket list travel adventures. What happens when our dream trip disappoints?
I'm seeking input from travel advisors/tour operators and people who have planned bucket list/dream trips.
TRAVEL ADVISORS/TOUR OPERATORS:
- When your clients approach you, what trends, communication patterns/language used or demands have you noticed when clients plan a "dream" trip or "bucket list" adventure with you?
- How do you manage expectations for your clients to balance selling them on an experience and getting them excited while also accounting for practical realities?
- What steps do you take to mitigate risk/disappointment, plan for contingencies?
- What advice do you have for clients who are preparing for such trips to ensure they make the best of the experience?
- Please DM or share any examples or anecdotes you have to illustrate the above
TRAVELERS:
I'm looking for examples of dream vacations you planned with big expectations.
Would any of you be willing to share your story of how you made sure your dream trip delivered on your expectations, OR an example of how your trip didn't quite land the mark on what you had hoped for.
How did you feel after? What do you wish you or your travel partners had done in advance? What advice would you give to other travelers planning a bucket list trip to set realistic expectations?
DEADLINE for input: 6/27
Thanks in advance!!
Hi Amritha,
I think the key here is to different between emotional expectations and logistical expectations.
I learned this lesson many years ago, when visiting Buenos Aires. I had watched YouTube videos of Argentinian steaks before I left for the trip, and I was salivating at the thought of eating one. When we finally got to a steak restaurant, picked the cut, and it came out, I felt entirely disappointed. The steak was certainly great (and above the standards of most places I've been) but since I had grown up in Australia and eaten grass-fed steaks my whole life, I just didn't experience the kind of food euphoria I saw others having. If anything, I felt lucky to have grown up in a place with great produce.
Getting around Buenos Aires and dealing with taxi-drivers and language barriers was a challenge, but since I had no expectations about the logistics of the trip, it was never a problem (and was kind of fun).
On logistics. A few years ago I decided to try train-travel in Germany. I wasted a whole day trying to take Deutsche-Bahn from Hamburg to Denmark. After hours of late trains, finally missing the connection, and having to take a 20km taxi ride over the border and arrive in a small town with all the hotel receptions closed, I was incredibly frustrated. To some people, what happened would been part of the adventure, but for me it was a huge logistical let down. Germany's train system had failed me and my expectations.
These days, I do very little research on a new place before I go. I get more joy from the experience of discovery in the moment than letting expectations get the better of me.
Hope that helps!
These are great example, Ian! Thank you so much for your input! I agree that sometimes, it’s almost better to not research so that you take the experience as you go! Of course, on the flip side, when you research the logistics in advance, it helps you be prepare for sticky situations in advance. Great distinction between the emotional and logistical prep!
Hi Amritha, In my opinion setting high expectations is the biggest mistake any agent can make. Always under promise and over deliver. I always tell ,my clients to pack their sense of adventure. But in saying that I am in constant contact with every client while they travel and trouble shoot if necessary. I also make clear to all service providers I choose, what is expected. An example would be, I have clients currently visiting the Okavango Delta ( a major and expensive bucket list item for a number of people). The flood currently is the biggest in decades, which is spectacular, but as a result a number of activities normally available, are not. So we look for the positive, 1. Large Flood, 2. spectacular, 3.an experience of a life time. I hope this helps
Hi Neil- thank you for this! Very helpful input!
I agree with under promise and over deliver. Helps make it feel extra special.
Then after the trip you have a lot more to talk about and some funny stories can emerge as travel memories. Rephrasing the classic: All perfect vacations are the same, all disappointing ones are different. We went to Whistler, Canada for my very first ski vacation and I was very excited about the biggest and glamorous ski resort. Of course my expectations were high. It was raining the whole week while we were there. While we were disappointed being there, after the trip and many years later we laughed about it.
Hi Yelena- I can understand how that would be disappointing, but I’m glad you were able to laugh about it in retrospect! If anything, it gives you another reason to go back and try again!